In the vanilla world, I ultimately get the same question over and over again, “Why Poly?” I always refer to the first polyamorous person I met and what he said to me; “How can you…
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The Mythical Unicorn
A unicorn in polyamory or swinging lifestyles is usually a single bisexual willing to have sex or enter a relationship with an established couple. Although unicorns are typically female, this term can apply to any…
Emotionally Una-nope! How to Avoid the emotionally unavailable
Suppose you do a Google search about the emotionally unavailable. Hundreds of articles come up, whole websites dedicated to this topic, Facebook groups, Quora questions, pages upon pages. It is very overwhelming. We can cut…
Stop Ignoring These 7 Inspiring Truths
People know who they have the potential to be. The challenge is seeing that process through. Self-development is an art. It takes time. It requires patience. It asks you to step outside your comfort zone. It…
How to be 1% Better Every Day
“Compounding is the greatest mathematical discovery of all time.” — Albert Einstein The quest to become a better version of yourself often feels like a roller coaster ride. It’s hard. And it’s usually so uneven….
How To Become Ridiculously Self-Aware In 20 Minutes
Four years ago my sister got me something that would dramatically alter the direction of my life. In fact, it was probably the most influential gift I’ve ever received. It would help me find my…
What’s the Point of Self-Improvement Anyway?
There’s a paradox with self-improvement and it is this: the ultimate goal of all self-improvement is to reach the point where you no longer feel the need to improve yourself. Think about it: The whole…
Self-love is the basis for self-improvement
There’s a quandary I hear people talk about a lot in the self-improvement world which goes something like this: “Should I keep trying to change, or should I just learn to love myself?” The people…
How to Supercharge Your Learning and Self-Improvement: The Golden Ratio of Communication
One of my favorite pieces of ancient wisdom comes from the Stoic philosopher Epictetus: We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak. Sure, that may not…